Miss All Rounder

I believe in the power and influence of women. I believe in women being power houses. I believe that women have the power to be all rounders, to be good at whatever they do. Every woman should define what her "all" is and work at becoming excellent at that. A married woman with 2 kids and one who is unmarried have a different "all". The first should excel at being a wife and mother and everything while the second should excel at everything else she has chosen. The "all" of a married woman includes a husband while the "all" of an unmarried woman does not. First figure out what your "all" is and stop putting pressure on yourself to excel at things that don't exist.

Women are often very jealous of each other and become insecure because of what the other has. You can compete on things that are not the same, Bafana Bafana can never compete against the Proteas, different game, different rules, different league. Women should stop comparing themselves to other women, their stories and journeys are not the same. As women, we should be challenged by ourselves and becoming the best versions of ourselves. The only person we are in competition with is the individual that we are.

In the quest to becoming the best version of yourself, draw up a life plan. See where you are now, where you want to be and challenge yourself based on that. Do a stock take of your life. Re-evaluate your strenghts and dreams, your weaknesses and challenges. Once you have done that, think about what your "all" is. What is it exactly that you want to excel in. How is your future you looking? What does she like? What does she tolerate? How does she smell like? What's her fashion sense? Is she married? If that's the case, to who? What does she drive? Where does she stay? Do you like that woman? Does she inspire you? She should, if she doesn't them you have the wrong woman, you perhaps have the woman people want you to be. Dream and think about the woman YOU want to become and once you have her, without a shadow of doubt, let her inspire you.

Work towards becoming that woman, wake up everyday and think about not disappointing her. If she smells really good, go out there and buy yourself some good purfume, you'll be one step closer to being like her. If she is an amazing cook and you hardly cook then go out there and buy yourself recipe books. Do something, anything but take a step closer to becoming that woman you envision. Don't be sad if the first dish turns out bad, you are a work in progress, do it over and over and over again until you get it right, not just that, until you perfect it, so much so that you can't get it wrong.

Be your own mentor, let the woman you envision mentor the woman you are now. Let your future self mentor you into being the amazing person you want to become. Find woman who are similar to your future self and ask them how they did. There is power in hooking up with other power houses. Somethings don't come naturally, not to all of us but you know what they say "hard work always beats talent when talent doesn't work hard". If your future self is the CEO of her own company, then go on and register and work hard to become that.

Be bold enough to pursue your dreams. Tough enough to face rejection. Easy enough to try new things. Be happy, be you. Inspire You.