Before we go any further let me be clear that there is nothing with having standards, infact, we should, we must have have standards. We don't wait for someone or people to set those standards for us, we do it ourselves and for ourselves. Remember that we teach and show people how to treat us. okay.
Standards allow us to be exclusive, it also creates a "type of people" we date and while that is a good thing it can also box us and restrict us from seeing people for who they really are and seeing their real potential. We should never people out of pity, we really shouldn't, but women love doing this. The saviour syndrome-I will fix him. We see potential and HELP the person reach it, we don't FIX people. Try and remember that.
People are very keen to declare love, Christians especially, but how far are we actually willing to got for the love we preach. There are so many men out there who are willing to build homes with women, women who are broken and needy and insecure and traumatised but how many are willing to do that. How many brothers are willing to take on a broken lady and build a home with her.It has said that our Christian sister prefer "wordly" brothers and because they compare them with the brothers in the house (of the Lord). This was often based on romance and so forth but what if our sisters date and end up marrying outside the church because homeboys have zero judgement and want to see you for who you are and have the potential of becoming and who they want you to be or society dictates you should be. I don't know of any brothers who would willingly marry a lady pregnant with another man's child, I don't know of any brothers who would marry a sister who has a child or even children but I do know of three men who brought up children that were not theirs and they don't wear suits every Sunday.
There are also a lot of homeboys who
Standards allow us to be exclusive, it also creates a "type of people" we date and while that is a good thing it can also box us and restrict us from seeing people for who they really are and seeing their real potential. We should never people out of pity, we really shouldn't, but women love doing this. The saviour syndrome-I will fix him. We see potential and HELP the person reach it, we don't FIX people. Try and remember that.
People are very keen to declare love, Christians especially, but how far are we actually willing to got for the love we preach. There are so many men out there who are willing to build homes with women, women who are broken and needy and insecure and traumatised but how many are willing to do that. How many brothers are willing to take on a broken lady and build a home with her.It has said that our Christian sister prefer "wordly" brothers and because they compare them with the brothers in the house (of the Lord). This was often based on romance and so forth but what if our sisters date and end up marrying outside the church because homeboys have zero judgement and want to see you for who you are and have the potential of becoming and who they want you to be or society dictates you should be. I don't know of any brothers who would willingly marry a lady pregnant with another man's child, I don't know of any brothers who would marry a sister who has a child or even children but I do know of three men who brought up children that were not theirs and they don't wear suits every Sunday.
There are also a lot of homeboys who
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