Adam is not ready

Lately I am of the opinion that the determining factor of two people being together has nothing to do with the readiness of the lady but everything to do with the reading of the guy. I have heard so many sermons bashing single ladies as to why they don’t have partners, how you must be able to cook and clean and be a prayer warrior before he finds you. You don’t NEED to be anything when he finds you. Adam was toiling the soil and naming animals and doing what GOD had told him to do when GOD saw it fit to give him a helper. It had nothing to do with Eve’s cooking skills and prayer life.  ADAM had to be ready, he had to be living out his purpose and he had to be working. Everything Eve learned she had to learn from Adam, so in today’s world Eve would have been a pretty “useless wife”.

I am so tired of seeing beautiful ladies who are crazy in love with the Lord beat themselves up about why they are single. Wondering what they are not doing right when they serve, they pray, they fast, they give, they make mean dishes, wake up before dawn but still don’t have any partner on the horizon. I am tired of ladies thinking that there is something wrong with them, that have not hit the “I’m ready for marriage” spot, that there is a shortfall somewhere. CALM DOWN LADIES... THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU!!!!!!!

However, that does not  mean  that we are going to stop praying and cooking and cleaning and serving and if we do then we will know that we would have been doing it for the wrong reasons anyway. This should be a good test, after you realise that not being in relationship has nothing to do with you, look at your reaction and your relationship with GOD. Are you suddenly feeling relieved? Like you don’t have to put in soo much effort anymore? Like you can relax and wake up after mid-day and not pray? Like you don't have to serve with excellence? If you are feeling like that then it means that you were not doing all of those for the right reasons.

You need to pray because you are hungry and want to connect with GOD, you should be fasting because you want to tune your ears to His voice, you should be serving as an extension of Christ to the world, you should be waking up early to spend time with Him... Not because you are on a “I’m getting ready for a man” treadmill. So you go on and learn how to bake because you enjoy baked food. You go on and learn new recipes because your family would like to try them out. You go on ad exercise and keep fit and look hot. Once you start doing that for yourself, you won’t stop even after you have a man. So ladies, stop stressing, stop looking down at yourselves. Stop searching for your future husband. Stop it. Pursue GOD and live life to the fullest.